11. “Each in his or her own way” the Council says. We should not grow discouraged before examples of holiness that appear unattainable. There are some testimonies that may prove helpful and inspiring, but that we are not meant to copy, for that could even lead us astray from the one specific path that the Lord has in mind for us. The important thing is that each believer discern his or her own path, that they bring out the very best of themselves, the most personal gifts that God has placed in their hearts (cf. 1 Cor 12:7), rather than hopelessly trying to imitate something not meant for them. We are all called to be witnesses, but there are many actual ways of bearing witness. Indeed, when the great mystic, Saint John of the Cross, wrote his Spiritual Canticle, he preferred to avoid hard and fast rules for all. He explained that his verses were composed so that everyone could benefit from them “in his or her own way”. For God’s life is communicated “to some in one way and to others in another”.
[Gaudete et Exsultate].
Furthermore, pastors and lay people accompanying their brothers and sisters in the faith or on a path of openness to God must always remember what the Catechism of the Catholic Church clearly states: 'Imputability and responsibility for an action can be diminished or even nullified by ignorance, unawareness, coercion, fear, habit, excessive attachment, and other psychological or social factors. Consequently, without departing from the evangelical ideal, they must accompany with patience and mercy through the various stages of personal growth when these occur. I want to remind priests that the confessional should not be a torture chamber, but rather a place of encounter with God's mercy that spurs us on to do our best. A small step, in the midst of our human limitations, can please God more than a life that is apparently perfect, but proceeds without ever encountering great difficulties.
[Pope Francis, in:
https://www.spaziosacro.com/node/186126]
